Think Like A Man: Conquer Thine Enemy

Think Like A Man: Conquer Thine Enemy

Think like a man!
Yes think like a man. Why in the world would a woman want to do that?
Why would Steve Harvey suggest that?           I know, I know, the book came out years ago.
However; the movie based on the concept of his book just came out recently so I thought it would be a great segue for me to elaborate on the topic. Why elaborate?  I have the notion there are women who read the book but found Steve’s points invalid. Interestingly, a book was  written in response to Steve Harvey’s book titled “Why Do I have to think like a man?” This indicates to me there is disagreement, and discontent with Steve Harvey’s book by “some” women.

Now, the reason women should think like men, pay attention this is an important point. You want to be able to conquer your “enemy”.  What?….  What enemy?!  Let me explain.    If you know your enemy you can conquer him.  One method of conquering your enemy in battle is to know your opponents strategies, abilities, strengths….etc.   If you agree with that concept then what I am about to say should be easy to conceptualize. Now of course we know that your lover is not your enemy but, if you think like your enemy (lover) you can conquer him. You can conquer him, mentally, with love, in order, to have a “peaceful loving relationship”, as well as being able to have him be “agreeable and accommodating“, to your point of view most times.  So in actuality the term “conquer” really means in my dictionary “a method to achieve harmony“. This is what you should want. So if you don’t want harmony in your relationship then continue thinking “only like a woman”.  After all are we not supposed to complement or complete one another. If that is true then one must think from a holistic or complete perspective. Not just a feminine or masculine perspective.

Now, what do I mean when I say this. In my opinion, women should be able to master how men think, and understand a man’s  perspective, whether you agree with it or not, do it in order to understand them better so you can communicate with them more effectively. Ultimately, taming (conquering) him to achieve peace and happiness, as well as, getting him to perform, or behave the way you want.  The ladies may not agree with this but, men, particularly the “players”, gain the upper hand on women because, when men want to, they think like women, in order to gain an advantage over women emotionally, mentally and physically.  Do you really think, he thinks, you’re the most beautiful girl he has ever been with? Do you really think he wants to cuddle with you all the time? Do you really think he wants to talk to you all the time? Do you think he really wants to take you out?  This is learned behavior by men from being observant to the wants and baby cries of women, to maintain some peace, and if he is really on his “A Game” to be a ladies man, or at least the apple of his wife’s eye, these are some of the things he will do, and say in order to have peace, and tranquility in his home, and life or, to at least, have things go his way most of the time.

So for those beating up Steve Harvey and saying he is just trying to sell a book and he can’t talk because he cheated on his wife yada yada yada. Write your own book. Let’s see how you fix this mess the women are in. It is not the messenger it is the message. At least he has  introduced a possible solution. If you are so caught up in being an independent woman, that you are too arrogant to not take the advice from a “man” about strategies to get in tune with “how men think”, than being in a healthy relationship is something you don’t want.  So, if you have to ask why do I have to think like a man, and you are dead set against doing it. Then the words “you need to get in touch with your feminine side” better not ever come out your @*&%##*  mouth ever again.  Don’t ever ask a man to try to see things from a woman’s point of view ever again.  If you can’t do it why should he?  Steve actually gave you women a gem. But as they say you can’t feed pearls to swine. As a matter of fact, to the men, the next time some woman says to you get in touch with your feminine side, respond with get in touch with your masculine side so you can think logically for once.

Think Like A Man: How Men Fall In Love!

Think Like A Man: How men fall in love.

What’s up, to my Soulpollers especially the ladies, this one is for you.
Think like a man. Yes!  You should learn to think like a man.
I’ll break that down in the next article. But for now you need to see this vlog.
I used this video to explain how to think like men by TonyaTKO because she keeps it 100% funky. It is something all females need to hear.  This is also for the “Men” to use as a template, when you have to talk to your daughters and nieces about boys.                               I edited the clip to highlight the points that I believe were most pertinent.                              You can find the full video (25 minutes) by clicking the link here.

Valentine’s Day Taunting: End emotional terrorism

Valentine’s Day Taunting: End Emotional Terrorism

Valentine’s Day?!  Did he say valentine’s day? Yeah that’s right
SoulPollers I brought it up. I know I’m late with it but I figured now that it’s over with,  by a few weeks, I thought we could discuss it without being so emotional.

Now having said that,  Valentine’s Day Sucks!!  Why!  It sucks primarily because of  Valentine’s day Taunting ! Yes, that is correct Valentine’s Day Taunting. Don’t act like you don’t know what I mean. For those that don’t know here are some examples. “Oh look what my man got me for Valentine’s Day”. “Oooh girl  he bought me those red bottoms”.  “Awww he’s so sweet he sent me 400 roses to my job”.  Y’all need to cut the boasting and bragging. It’s ruining relationships all across America unnecessarily.

I believe these comments are “taunts” to women. They might not admit  it but that is what they are doing. What they are really saying is “my man loves me more than your man loves you”.    The results of this are angry women going back home to their men and creating drama because she is now unsatisfied with the relationship, because she now feels that her man does not love her enough. As a result most men have developed a disdain towards the concept of  Valentine’s Day.

These are my five main reasons why men hate V’s Day.

1. Because the truth is “V’s Day” is merely a marketing tactic to play on feminine emotions to cause men to spend millions of dollars annually. So men feel like helpless victims to the ” emotional terrorism” that women display on V’s day.
2. If men don’t do anything on that day they are all of a sudden accused of being selfish jerks or accused of not caring or having no love for her at all.
3. Men are forced to be in  “financial” competition to prove he loves his woman more than any other man loves his woman and it is not reciprocated.
4. It is supposed to be  a  “lovers holiday” but it has become a day solely  for women.    Shout outs to women who treat their men on that day.
5. It is also considered a day for women because men, by nature, could give a damn about some Valentine’s Day. It is not in our DNA to care about receiving chocolate, teddy bears, and dinner by candle light.Therefore he is acting outside of his nature if he is playing along with the V’s Day concept.

So stop the taunting. That’s so “High School”.  This behavior perpetuates and escalates low self esteem, angst, anger, jealousy, envy,disappointment  and broken hearts. It is making people crazy. Let’s instead be humble and keep our gifts and joy down a notch to spare someone else any angst, sadness, and or hurt feelings.. We swear we’re grown, but do childish  $#&@,  just because we did, or didn’t, get a Valentine’s gift.  Wow you are 30 + and you still get mad you didn’t get a gift. X-mas and V’s Day are for kids.  If we are true “SoulPollers” we have to take an honest look and say you know what I am done with the childish”BS” games. We must give up the taunting, emotional terrorism, and desist on the fasle accusations of people not caring enough. “True Love” cannot be expressed solely on just one day of the year.

So in closing maybe if we stop the “taunting” maybe we can get the men who hate valentine’s day to participate happily, and willingly. If so maybe the world could be a better place,at least on that day.

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Has TV Taught You Who To Love? Part 2

Previously, we talked about “Has T.V. taught you who to love”.  Here in part two, we will continue this discussion and reflect on how one may succumb to inadvertent choices  of the heart. So ladies, if you have time, check out the video below and see if you have rejected a man because he wasn’t balling only to find that he was indeed a good man.

Next, I will supply some actual events, that helps to corroborate my suggestions of popular culture influencing who we love. During the eighties and late seventies, the image of black men that black women wanted, was the light skinned guy with good hair (Soft Afro, wavy hair….etc).  In the late eighties and early nineties, the new ideal man, thanks to Bobby Brown, New Edition, Wesley Snipes, Aaron Hall to name a few, dark skinned was in.  Then in the mid nineties thanks to Treach, Tupac, Mc Lyte, and many more the.. “thug, ruff neck” “image” was preferred. Then when Jaheem and Allen Iverson came on the scene everyone wanted a pretty thug with long cornrows. Am I lyin’ ? Now, the new ideal man,  thanks to the new fashion trends are guys like Bruno Mars, or the guy who looks like a nerd or poindexter. Can I get a witness!

Now,  If you have found your self attracted to these images of men during these time periods  then you will have to, at some point, admit someone else has taught you, or at least, you allowed yourself to be influenced by exterior forces on “who to love”.                  Take your thoughts and life back, and keep your own concepts, of the ideal person you and only you are attracted, to intact.  You will eventually create your own happiness. Peace be upon you.

Leave a comment,  Let your voice be heard. Let’s get it in. I’m sure your insight will lead us to the light.

– Daddy SoulPoll

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Has TV Taught You Who To Love?

Teenage Girls Watching TV

So, has TV taught us who and how to love?  I myself  believe that is the case,  if not all of us, at least those of us who have been born in the last fifty years.  These two videos  depicted are,  to some degree, the concepts that we, here at SoulPolls, would like to eradicate from our next generations minds.              Particularly from the minds of our young women.  From music videos, movies to magazines our babies are bombarded with false realities and images of  “love” so called “beauty”, unrealistic romance and the need to be married to a handsome, healthy and wealthy (aka ballers, bosses) “Real Man”.  Although these videos in this blog  are somewhat funny, please take note that many men have literally experienced this rejection.   Therefore, I suggest that this rejection for this shallow reason, to be one of the reasons for the so called “lack of respect” for women by men.      Let’s dig in. Check out the video below.

While there is nothing wrong with wanting the finer things in life.  Many of us do not have, or at least we covet to want more, based on what the media prescribes for us to believe what we must have. We must not let poverty or lack of anything, allow T.V. to pollute our concept of true love. We have music videos profusely propagating the tattooed “Tupac archetype” making it rain  “Benjamins” on big booty strippers. The imagery of  scores of women caressing the chest of a tattooed golden mouth thug, subconsciously, becomes that which she aspires to want as her ideal man. As well as, the boy wanting only big booty curvy women that will debase themselves just to be in their limelight. I know, I was there. I thought  about selling crack just to get girls and strippers, like the drug dealers in Harlem. Why do you think every boy wants to be a rapper or singer?

If we indeed love our children, then we must boycott and protect them from these T.V. shows and music videos that promote vanity and insanity. If we can’t stop them from viewing it at least let them know that what they see is all fake and unrealistic. Most of  us understand these elements as entertainment. But does a child? If she grows up constantly observing teenage moms,  Basketball Wives, and groupies, who chase rappers who have a million tattoos, shaking their butts on youtube, while she is having her lips, and cheek bones injected with her booty fat and getting her hair died pink, using Kool-Aid, like Nikki Minaj, to look good for her  3 million dollar sweet sixteen party, just so that the boy she invited would like her, if for just that one day, then he will somehow turn into Justin Bieber to carry her away in marital bliss just so she can turn into a bridezilla, then after all that she will think that this is normal.   I will let you Ponder on that one. Parents protect your daughters and nieces from the bull@$%!!

Leave a comment,  Let your voice be heard. Let’s get it in. I’m sure your insight will lead us to the light.

– Daddy Soul

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Why you still think about your ex pt.2

Because of the feedback I received about the last article I decided to make a part two and thanks to a colleague I came across information somewhat validating the concepts mentioned in the article of                   “Why you still think about our ex”            thanx Jas’.

So we will discuss, briefly about that article.  In the last article, I mentioned that DNA from semen or the vaginal excretions that are ingested or absorbed in the body may lead to a genetic stamping or imprinting of the “excreter” into the “excretee” ( if there is such a phrase) thereby leaving the former lovers mental presence” upon the mind and not in the sense of just memories, but in terms of how one thinks,and behaves. An example would be how one may unwittingly ruin new potential relationships because of fear of being hurt.     It may just well be your former lover  is causing you to ruin those new relationships, because the genetic presence of that former lover is rejecting any foreign entity.                Now, there is information that corroborates this theory. However, it may not be solely D.N.A but, actually “hormones”. Hormones  may be the culprit of why you still think about your ex. Some of these hormones are called oxytocin, vasopressin dopamine, pheromones,serotonin, norepinephrine.  To save time we will concentrate on oxytocin.

Oxytocin, the so called “love potion hormone”, is a hormone made in the hypothalamus gland in the brain. It is stored and released by the pituitary gland in the brain. Oxytonin cells can be found in the spinal chord as well as the brain. Interesting that this coincides to what I mentioned in the last article, that the mental constitution of the male is embedded in the semen, which (semen) is derived from the spinal fluid, this hormone may be the carrier of the males mental disposition as well. Oxytocin is said to be released during kissing, hugging, skin to skin contact and sexual stimulation. Oxytocin is said to be involved with creating feelings of trust, empathy, generosity, bonding, sexual arousal, and orgasm among other things.

Oxytocin is also associated with the influence of monogamy and social bonding. It seems clear that there may be some validity in the notion that there is a biochemical reason for your love of another. It is more than just your heart. But going further, it is suggested that increased plasma levels of oxytocin is related to intense romantic attachment.  This may be why it is difficult for some of us to let go of an ex-lover or why they may still enter our thoughts when we actually don’t wish to think about them. In this case, during copulation we may have actually secreted and exchanged large amounts of oxytocin during our time with said ex. With such large amounts of hormones released into the blood stream, in my opinion, it is safe to suggest that this hormone also may carry the genetic code or mental disposition of the former lover. Causing some of us to go through traumatic withdrawal and heartache after a breakup. Thereby keeping you (potentially) from moving on successfully in to new relationships and life satisfaction.

So why are we talking about this?  Simply put, our mission in life is to get better everyday and if we can have love incorporated in that mission,     then our mission will make everyday better. The motto of SoulPolls is to “Reunite the people of Soul through honest dialogue, to cultivate peace, unity, love, and having fun”.  By understanding our selves a little more, whether it be meta-physically, physically, outwardly, internally and perhaps spiritually, the knowledge and wisdom we gain about ourselves can lead to us to allow true love to enter in our lives again to achieve peace, unity, and having fun.

Leave a comment.  Let your voice be heard. Let’s get it in.                                                           I’m sure your insight will lead us to the light..

– Daddy Soul

Why you still think about your ex!

Are you are still in love with your ex?

Do you still think about your ex years later?

Are you having trouble moving on to new relationships?

Are you having trouble keeping new relationships?

The answer could very well be that your “ex lovers” DNA is inside of you.                                        Now this particular discussion is predominantly meant for women, but I suggest that this also applies to men and gay men in particular.  Why do I say this?                                                    Upon my quest to be a better person I have found a book that explains some of this concept. It is called “Resurrection or Reserve Erection” by Amun-Re Sen Atum-Re.  My interpretation of what I have learned from this book, suggests  to me that the mixing of fluids between lovers particularly the man’s semen leaves a genetic imprint on the mind of the receiver. Especially, if the love act is done orally. It is suggested that sperm is a physical manifestation of the males ego. Seminal fluid contains zinc, protein,  carbohydrates, cholesterol, magnesium, copper, potassium,and selenium. This seminal fluid is said to actually be cerebral spinal fluid. Cerebral denoting the brain, and since the brain is attached to the spine sperm contains not only DNA, but the man’s memory and mental characteristics. In essence sperm contains the mental disposition of the man.  Now, based on what we have just learned, I also suggest, that men who perform oral sex on women may also take on the woman’s mental disposition if he is ingesting her fluids. This may explain why we tend to take on our lovers mentality after awhile, especially if we are in love.

Quoting the book it states that ” a woman can be enslaved genetically by a man’s DNA. The sperm is made up of more essential trace minerals than most foods on earth. If a woman should perform oral sex on her partner before eating or when hungry, a groove will be sent into the mind and this groove represents the fact that she needs her man to sustain her, for the body is overwhelmed by the nutritional value of the sperm. In which case there is a craving for her man that will be established”.  Do you think about your loved one or ex all the time?  Do you need to be around or see your lover all the time? This might be why.

It is also suggested in the book  that someone (especially women) who ingests or take on one’s sperm will gain the man’s intuition, will become clairvoyant, will possess some form of telepathy concerning the man, and even have the ability to touch an object and know from touching that object that he was with someone else.  This ability is called psychometry. Have you had the sense of your loved one or ex being with someone else? Have you experienced your lover or ex being able to finish your sentences? Have you been able to know were your loved would be even if  they never told you they would be there? This might be why. Yikes, this is scary.  No more oral sex for me. LMAO!!

In closing, I would just like to say I am not suggesting to not perform oral sex. I am merely trying to help us see some reasons as to why we behave certain ways, why we can’t let an ex- lover go from our minds, and why we tend to hurt others (unintentionally) who are new in our lives. If we have the keys that can unlock the mysteries of ourselves we can unlock the door of true love, peace, freedom, and  happiness.

Pass this along to your loved ones and friends. Let’s begin the conversation.

Leave a comment,  Let your voice be heard. Let’s get it in. I’m sure your insight will lead us to the light.

– Daddy SoulPoll

Stop Being “Nice” and Be “Generous”.

Stop Being “Nice” and Be “Generous”.

Why do I say this?  For those that don’t know      the etymology of “nice”, we will refer to using the Mac OSX  dictionary application. It reveals to us  that “nice”  comes from Middle English (in the sense [stupid] ): from Old French, from Latin nescius ‘ignorant,’ from nescire ‘not know.’ Dictionary.com shows the etymology of nice to be…
Nice:
1250–1300; Middle English:  foolish, stupid < Old French:  silly,simple < Latin nescius  ignorant, incapable, equivalent to ne- negative prefix + sci-  (stem of scīre  to know; see science)

The etymology of “generous” according to dictionary.com….
Generous:
1580s, from M.Fr. généreux  (fem. généreuse ), from L. generosus “of noble birth,” from genus  (gen. generis ) “race, stock” (seegenus). Originally “of noble birth,” secondary senses of “unselfish”and “plentiful” were present in French and perhaps in Latin.                   So I would rather be noble, than stupid and foolish. What say you.

Now, Tonya TKO  said on one her youtube video “He’s too nice: Why do girls like bad boys” that.
Women do not want a man who appears to be “weak” in terms of loyalty.                        Especially, if you are too “nice” initially, when she feels she hasn’t merited the “nice” behavior. She may be concerned by the fact that if  the man is too “nice” with giving gifts, and going above and beyond in terms of unwarranted generous behavior, in order to win her good graces, she may feel he is weak because, he will do this for any woman, who may be voluptuous, and  beautiful.  He also appears to be “weak” because he appears to have no back bone. Meaning, he has not put his foot down, and or he has not demonstrated having any standards or limits towards behavior that may not be tolerated by others.

In other words, “she ain’t shiznit,” (xcuse my french) and now she knows she can take advantage of him, or have no true respect for him, because he has proven he will do whatever she wants for no apparent reason.  Many American women smell that a mile away and usually take advantage of the situation and him. This is called in ebonics “use a sucka’ “.  Now, generally, I may say to the men stop this behavior but in actuality what is wrong with being generous  to a woman or  to anybody for that matter?  What we really should be doing (women) is stop being disingenuous in accepting these favors if you don’t respect that type of behavior.  Also stop leading these dudes on, if you don’t have good intentions about him.  Just politely tell him you don’t appreciate unwarranted generosity, and you are not interested in him if that is the case.

To recap, the word “nice”, originally stems from the meaning of being ignorant, stupid or not knowing.   Take a moment and ponder gentlemen what that  means metaphysically.  She, metaphysically,  does not like you because you are too nice (stupid)  for being generous (noble) without merit.
So in closing,  people stop being “nice” and instead  be “generous” in the long run it will be more advantageous to you in your relationships.

Send your comments, let’s get it in.

He’s too nice: Why do Girls like Bad Boys?

We’ve heard this talked about a million times, but this sister here keeps it official.                I Love Tonya TKO for this one. This video is long but it’s worth the time if you have it.

Fellas this one is for you. Get a pen and pad if you need to take notes. HAHAHAHA!! Shout outs to all my young jedi’s at the job.

Did she tell too much info? Did she let the cat out the bag? Should she have brought this to the light? Or is it men should have figured this out a long time ago!  Any rebuttals ladies? Please give us your opinion on this topic. I’m sure the men would love to hear it. Let’s get it in.

Do women want to wear the pants in a relationship?

Do women want to wear the pants in a relationship?
Interesting question is it not. I would like to see what you guys think on this matter.
Should she wear the pants if there is a male present?
Why is she concerned that she must take on the role of a man?

First lets check out this video. I noticed that despite the men asking questions to the ladies on the panel they were very aggressive and dismissive to the men, despite what the men had to say.

It is apparent that these women on the panel will never solve the answer to the question of the show because they don’t want to hear the answer from a man. Generally speaking, the woman has a deep psychological hate or disrespect for men whatever that reason may be. I believe that there are many women who, justifiably so, have a chip on their shoulder towards men.

So lets ask some questions. Does she feel the need to wear the pants because men may have been absent in her childhood or adulthood? Does she feel the need to wear the pants because her man is not earning what she deems a respectable income? Has the man become obsolete and therefore does not deserve the title of leader? Does she wear the pants because she has no other choice? These questions need to be addressed and hopefully along with your help we can resolve some of these issues.

Having asked all these questions I would like to part you all with this.  There is no doubt that woman and man are dual forces meant to coexist to create balance. Without that balance you have chaos.  That chaos is a result of the convolution of our roles enforced by our society that forces our women to become the bread winners and providers for our families. We can agree that by nature women want protection and provision from their male counterparts. However, that role by men, has been arguably absent for a couple of decades. So there is some validation for the anti-male behavior. In order for us to be in balance in relationships, women and men must decide and define what role each is to play if indeed we want a successful relationship. Leave a comment let your voice be heard!

-Daddy Soul Poll